Wednesday, 24 September 2008

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  Stepparents

  I just wanted to take the full comment I left on a recent blog by Mama Pig, and move it to my own blogs... as it was a big long. Just my viewpoint into life with stepparents.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  <quote>'I've had numerous step-parents over the years. My mother is married for the fourth time now, and my father for the third.

  My mother's second husband was a great father to me while they were married. And, even after they split, he continued to be a big father figure in my life, and I still visited him when my sister (his daughter) would visit. He is now a close friend of mine, and still holds a degree of that father figure to me as well.

  Her third husband was a nice guy, and he tried to treat us like we were his own. He really did a good job, but both he and my mother left us a bit stranded for a while there when they got a bit addicted to Everquest. When that marriage ended, we had a bit of a rough time for a little bit, until we got into a new place and started pulling things together again.

  My mother is still with her fourth husband, a very good man from what I've seen. He takes wonderful care of her, and my sister. Even now that I'm moved out, he's always calling just to see how things are going, and I know he would give me the world if he could.

  My father's second wife didn't have much influence on my life, but she did have me over to visit while I was visiting my grandmother at one point. She's a nice woman when she wants to be, but definitely not a mother figure in any way. I don't think I would have been too happy living with her at any point.

  His wife now I did live with for a while. She's a good woman, and has always been pretty good to me. She's one of those fun moms, but is also rather strict when there's something she doesn't agree with. For the year I was living with my father and her, things got pretty rough for a bit. She was too strict for me, really, especially since I often got in trouble for things I hadn't done and that sort of thing. I dunno... She treats me like her own daughter, and I love her to death, but I don't think I would have wanted to live with her for too long. Maybe if certain situations hadn't come up to make things so rough that year.

  Anyways... I don't want to ever be a step-parent, now do I ever want to leave the father of my future children, but if it ever came up, I would definitely treat them like my own. The way I was raised, the children in a community are the responsibility of everyone to a degree, so, if I were ever to be a stepparent, I would definitely have no issue being able to treat them as though they were my own children, but also keeping in mind that they do have a biological mother who they will want to see, impress, and be around when they can.  I wouldn't expect them to ever see me as their real mother, nor treat me as such, but I would seek the same respect if I were the one caring for them.'</quote>

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